Sue Wintgens - Transforming relationships

How is the NEW Adventure in Intimacy couples workshop different and why should you attend?

Why come to this workshop? How is it different?

Enter the room where Hedy and Yumi are leading one of their workshops for couples, and you will be struck by the atmosphere of connection, and joy, and by the smiling faces, with eagerness and curiosity to learn. It is difficult to believe that at the beginning of the day the people in the room were strangers to each other, and that many of the couples entered the room with estrangement hovering over them.

As you listen to Hedy and Yumi share their experience with couples and their ideas for fulfilling their deep longing for intimacy and connection, you become aware of a unique quality of Hedy and Yumi’s teaching and the unique quality of the atmosphere they create in the room. They open the room and generate curiosity through their original combination of new information, humor, and personal anecdotes.

Observing Hedy and Yumi’s teaching style, one is reminded of the elegance, craftsmanship and mastery of an Olympic skating couple.

With an instinctive awareness of each person’s need to feel seen, Hedy and Yumi navigate the room making eye contact with each of the sixty or so persons present.

In their workshop, Hedy and Yumi have created a beautifully balanced blend of lectures, demonstrations, practice time, and fun. Insisting that couples spend three full days with their partner allows the fulfillment of their deep desire for closeness and attentiveness.

Unlike many couples workshops which concentrate on relationship problems and relationship problem-solving skills, and which approach this subject cognitively, Hedy and Yumi’s workshop is highly experiential and utilizes time efficiently to allow couples to experience – for many for the first time in a long time – the closeness they so long for.

By the end of the workshop, it becomes evident that Hedy and Yumi have created a powerful means for dealing with couples’ deep longing for closeness, safety, and connection. They have developed a workshop that is aimed at “unravelling the survival knot” where one partner’s “frozen need” meets the other’s “denied need”, where one person’s desperation meets the other’s defenses. It is what keeps the couple emotionally separate, it is where the life energy in their relationship is blocked.


Can three days benefit couples experiencing difficulty in their relationship?

During the 25+ years that Hedy and Yumi have led workshops for couples, they have exposed thousands of couples to their teachings. Among these were couples on the verge of divorce, couples preparing for marriage, as well as couples wishing to create a better climate for their children.

The three-day immersion, the presence of other couples, and the safety created by Hedy and Yumi’s presence, creates an atmosphere that chips away at the couple’s wall of separation.



Hedy and Yumi teach concrete, user-friendly, step-by-step rituals and skills for a flourishing connection. Couples receive a Couples Manual, filled with theory and practice for further inspiration and guidance after the workshop.

The three days spent in close proximity to one’s partner leaves an incredible memory of this powerful experience. It also liberates energy that was caught up in the “survival knot” and makes it available for fueling the relationship.

A powerful connecting skill that couples learn is “crossing the bridge” to the world of the other. This process allows the partners to deal with every issue in a way that elicits closeness and prevents the accumulation of energy for fueling the power struggle.

Couples discover and learn that:

  • conflict is a friend in disguise and a potential launching pad for relational growth and maturation.
  • daily annoyances are potential powerful vehicles for productive change.
  • each of us has a hero’s journey to integrate and learn from.
  • there is a way to have authentic impactful conversations, that move us from automatic, unconscious re-activity, to intentional, conscious action.
  • our relationships are fertile soil for zest, fun, romance, intimacy, and passion.
  • a conscious relationship grows our empathy and our ability to “step compassionately into our partner’s shoes.”
  • a conscious couple relationship affects all our connections including family, co-workers, and especially our children.


What is / are the most important thing(s) they will learn?

 The most important learnings:

  • The skills for bringing them emotionally closer.
  • That the creation and maintenance of a close relationship requires the ongoing “crossing the bridge” to the world of our partner.
  • How to have not only a solid relationship, but a creative one.
  • How to transform a relationship into a visionary adventure.
  • How to create, experience, and embrace the miracle of connection.


A program outline – “How will they spend their time these three days?”

During the New Adventure in Intimacy workshop, couples learn and practice relational principles, rituals and skills for deep, genuine, authentic connection. The format includes short lectures, live demonstrations, guided imageries, and experiential practice with one’s partner. Therapist assistants are available to answer questions and assist during the couple’s practice.