FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Your Questions Answered
WHAT IS UNIQUE AND DIFFERENT IN THIS WORK FROM OTHER RELATIONSHIP MODELS?
Instead of having a three-way conversation about your relationship, where the therapist often serves as a bridge of communication for the two of you, I will coach you both in how to visit each other in each of your two worlds. This is a fundamental experiential skill that will benefit all your relationships, so it makes sense to let someone show you how and coach you until both of you are feeling more confident! This helps you safely talk about the important things in your relationship and have a profoundly different outcome!
DOES YOUR WORK APPLY TO ANYONE AND EVERYONE?
Yes! This way of connecting works well with all couples regardless of their sexual orientation, religion, ethnic or racial background and personal history.
WHAT DOES WORKING WITH YOU IN AN INTENSIVE LOOK LIKE?
You will spend three consecutive sessions with me together in person or online – one full day and two mornings. I will help you look at what you want for your relationship and teach you a vital guiding principle that will help you shift the climate between you to an open connection. In this climate your relationship begins to make a lot more sense and a new energy becomes available between you that couples deeply appreciate. In the following weeks, the changes the couple have experienced become increasingly noticeable and couples are often surprised at their new confidence!
Some couples ask if they can come back in the future, if they need it, for another session and the answer is “Yes! Follow up Intensives are a full day.”
WHY DO YOU WORK ONLY IN INTENSIVES?
Working with couples in this innovative way has proved to be effective and transformative. Through experience I have found that couples make vital transitions from where they are to a new way of seeing and doing their relationship Doing an Intensive gives couples a chance to ring-fence vital time to focus on shifting from disconnection to a new place of openness and a new clarity on what they want to do with their relationship.
DOES THIS WORK REALLY TRANSFORM MY RELATIONSHIP?
Each couple is different and over the many years of offering this ground breaking work, every couple has taken something away from the experience of really being heard and really listening!
CAN I BOOK AN INTAKE SESSION?
I offer a free 20 minute Zoom call where couples can ask any questions they have and decide if I'm the right resource for their relationship. Please contact me if you would like to request one.
WHAT IF MY PARTNER DOESN'T WANT TO COME TO THERAPY?
It is quite common that initially one person within the relationship wants to do the work more than the other.
I find many times that lack of information and fear are at the heart of refusing to take part and I am happy to offer a short 20 minute Zoom meeting with both of you to explain my work and answer your questions. This often helps bring clarity and confidence for both people as you look for the right resource for your relationship.
WHAT IF I WANT TO END MY RELATIONSHIP?
Should one or both of you want to end your relationship then you might consider the Goodbye Ritual. If you have completed the Reconnection Intensive with me, then the Goodbye Ritual is a one-day experience where you are guided through ending your relationship with deep respect, honouring all the benefits and challenges that you have lived through together. If you have not done the foundational Reconnection Intensive, then you would first do this to give yourself a core foundation of new skills and understanding which you will then use in the Goodbye Ritual.
WHAT SHOULD I EXPECT TO GET FROM JOINING YOUR TRAINING?
This experiential training will give you a map to guide your work with couples and individuals with a new confidence and ease. It is for professionals (therapists, counsellors, coaches and other helping professionals) who have some experience and are looking to either start working with couples or who are looking for new ways to help couples into connection. If you are looking to rapidly and conveniently broaden your conceptual understanding and skills in the exciting work with couples, then this is an excellent way to do it!
WILL I GET A CERTIFICATE FOR ATTENDING YOUR COURSES?
The Kairos Encounter Centre issues CPD Certificates for all our trainings.